getting over a break up (that was a long time ago, that you thought you were over but it still bugs you)

So there is always going to be that boy or girl that will tug at the heart strings no matter how much you convince yourself you are over them. You'll see a post on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and so on and so forth that will kill you a little inside. That's ok, things like that will happen to anyone, you are not alone. This could even happen to you if you are in a new relationship now and know you love the other person. These things happen, you were in that relationship with that person before for a reason and there were feelings for them. The feeling might have gone away but you will always care for them, it's natural. But you are not alone, it happens to the best of us. I bet you're wondering what you can do to get over it. Well in my honest opinion you should just try not to think about that person, if something reminds you of it, get rid of it or put it something so you don't see it. If you are friends with the guy or girl on Facebook or Instagram just unfollow them or unfriend them. It might bother you for a while but you will eventually get over it and won't be reminded of them because you won't be able to see their post, pictures, ect. So my philosophy is the less you see of them, the less you'll think about them, and the faster it will all go away. And if you are in a relationship when this is happening remember you are with that person for a reason. If you didn't like or love them you wouldn't be with them. They have also probably gone through the same thing so if you're comfortable enough with them, talk to them about it. I can almost guarantee they will understand. You'll make it through this, you've got this, you can do this!

Starting over :)

Starting over. There seems to be a lot of starting over these days. Friends, family, relationships, and jobs all seem to come and go. This either happens on its own or you can do it for yourself. Starting over is never a bad thing. In fact for a lot of (or most) people it's a rather good thing. If you do not like something than change it. This is your life that you are living for you, no one else. If you want to be happy make yourself happy, regardless of others say. If they are not happy for you, you don't need them in your life. Make yourself happy before anyone else. This is your life not theirs. They should be happy your happy. So here's my advise for you: if your friends suck and are not being good friends, kick their butts to the curb and get some new ones. If your family is being awful get away from them and move, if the really care they would make an effort. If you are miserable in a relationship, dump his or her butt and move on. It may sting for a while and hurt but you will move on to bigger and better things and hopefully with time find the right person for you. And if your job sucks, here's a secret for you, there are many more jobs out there, do what makes you happy and get a job you love not loath.  SO as you can see starting over is an option and if you want to and or need to, do it! I believe in you and support you! You can do it! Yay you! :)  

Bullying

Bully: someone who used superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.

Please enjoy my rant. Growing up I was a victim of bullying from the 4th up until I was a senior in high school, so I know how these poor kids feel. When i see thah someone is getting bullied (especially a child) it breaks my heart. Most children get bullied and they don't even know why. What makes me sick is when the an adult goes fo help a child and the school does nothing about it. This is not ok. Are we going to sit by and let a child go through this. This children get bullied and they don't want to go to school so they fall behind. Some get depressed and commit suicide because of being bullied. Some kids are punished because they miss school because of a bully. These kids should not the punished because of what the bully is doing to them causing them to miss school. The schools need to take action and punish the bullies and put a stop to this. Most schools don't even do anything until a victim of bullying has harmed themselves it has committed suicide. This is not when the problem should be taken care of the problem should have been taken care of long ago, right when the problem started. That bully should not have the satisfaction of thinking they got away with this. They need to be punished for what they did. There are kids that go through this everyday. Bullying will not go away unless we do something about it. Let's take a stand and do what's right. We need to help the victims of bullying and let's them know we are here for them and we will not stand for this. Rant over.

Dogs... Are better than people

Most people would agree that dogs are some of the best companions out there. I would have to agree. Dogs are so loyal and helpful. They can also make you laugh and happy. The great and amazing things about dogs are that they can tell when you are sad or happy. If you are having a good day they can tell by the tone of your voice and that you are happy and that makes them happy. If you are sad most dogs will come to you to be petted or even snuggle up with you and that is an amazing feeling. So much love from one creature. I have always loved the quote, "Be the person your dog thinks you are". This to me is beautiful. Just think. How much better the world would be if people acted the way they did with their dogs to other humans. I think it would be so close to a perfect world. So what do you think? Are dogs better than people? Let me know! I would love to get y'alls feedback so feel free to comment below! :)

Why Can't I Sleep?

It's the age old question. Why can't I sleep? This seems to happen the most when you are tired. You try your hardest but you just can fall asleep. So what do you do now? You play on your, phone, iPad or computer hoping that you'll fall asleep. For some of us this works. Yay! For others it doesn't. Nay.. But we can't lose hope! We should remember a few things: 1. We will eventually fall asleep (and if that doesn't happen I'm sorry, that kinda sucks for you. Maybe try some NiQuil?) 2. I should not be playing with anything electronic and bright. Even with the brightness turned down, play on these devices makes your brain stimulated and keeps you awake even longer. Here is what i suggest: read a book, it does not have the bright lights and it will help you fall sleep. Something else i suggest is coloring, even if you are an adult there are adult coloring books and this can help you wind down and get you mind off of things. I just want to add on to that when you have  lot on you mind that doesn't help you fall asleep, so anything that gets you mind off what you are thinking about will help. The last thing I want to suggest is Googling breathing techniques to help you fall asleep, they really do help. I have tried all of these and they really seem to help. Have a great night y'all!

Friends? & One-sided friendships

So today I came to the realization that one sided friendsips are a real thing and can happen at any place and anytime. Today I got a new Instagram account because my old one was full of fake accounts and I just had a lot of crap I didn't want to see anymore. As anyone would do I added, well followed all my so called "friends". To my surprise a lot of them had private accounts. Mine was private too but I still followed them and thought for sure they would follow me back. I guess not because barely any did. I thought to myself that this was strange, but what can you do, you can't make them follow you back so you just have to deal with it. This hurt me at first but when I really thought about it they were never really the best of friends and I could probably survive. You do not need people in your life that make you upset or do not need you just remember that.

Now my next rant is about one-sided friendship. It is the typical friendship where one friend is was nicer or does way more for a friendship. They go above a beyond for the other person. The other friends typically doesn't care as much and takes advantage of the other person. My advice: GET RID OF THEM!!! These types of friends are not ones you need in your life. They will bring you down and make you feel bad when they don't give you the attention you deserve. Have friends that give you the attention you deserve and treat you the way you treat them. Make tousled happy and get rid of your toxic friend. It may hurt in the beginning and you may be sad for a while, but in the end you will be happier! :)